Archive for April, 2008

30
Apr

here comes gin, tv and social surplus

Shirky makes a compelling case that people are just learning how to deal with the “cognitive surplus” of free time modern life affords us. We’re waking up from the “collective bender” of mindlessly watching sitcoms and instead, we’re choosing instead to spend our free time volunteering, interacting, and Web 2.0′ing online

So I tell her all this stuff, and I think, “Okay, we’re going to have a conversation about authority or social construction or whatever.” That wasn’t her question. She heard this story and she shook her head and said, “Where do people find the time?” That was her question. And I just kind of snapped. And I said, “No one who works in TV gets to ask that question. You know where the time comes from. It comes from the cognitive surplus you’ve been masking for 50 years.”

http://www.herecomeseverybody.org/2008/04/looking-for-the-mouse.html

30
Apr

simple, powerful, undeniable truth

A child who lives with criticism
Learns to condemn

A child who lives with hostility
Learns to fight

A child who lives with ridicule
Learns to be shy

A child who lives with shame
Learns to feel guilty

A child who lives with tolerance
Learns to be patient

A child who lives with encouragement
Learns confidence

A child who lives with praise
Learns to appreciate

A child who lives with fairness
Learns justice

A child who lives with security
Learns faith

A child who lives with approval
Learns to like themself

A child who lives with acceptance & friendship
Learns to find love in the world

30
Apr

what a wonderful way to be romanced

As i’ve been talking about it for days, it’s time for the inevitable article where i push the button on my misogynistic tendencies to slag off women and attempt to do some good b by educating the fairer sex in the finer points of the male psyche. Tonight we’ll be discussing how to get a man to do what you want, and the mistakes you almost always make no matter how knowledgeable your mother thought she was when she taught you what you know about chaps.

First off, you have to understand that men aren’t cynical about women, they have just simply given up. Around the age of 25 when you’ve spent a good 10 years or so trying (and failing miserably) to please, appease or fulfil a woman’s desires in every way you can imagine, there is a point where all men just say “fuck it”. Whatever you do is never enough, and nothing makes them happy. There is always something else they’re not happy about or want after you just broke your back doing the last thing. Most men get to a stage where they just give up trying to please a woman and let them whinge on.

Now don’t get me wrong, of course you’re worth it. Of course we love you. It’s just that we give up caring or hoping you might actually be satisfied.

This is the reason golf was invented, and why men seek the company of other men in the pub. Just for some fucking peace and quiet where they are not being screeched at. You get to learn the phrase “Yes, dear” very well. You stop trying to calm a woman down and just conceal your bad habits because even if you got rid of them, there would be something next in the list you’d be in trouble for.

There is a female assumption that we should “just know”, be somehow telepathic or just have a psychic intuitive link with you, and it’s very, very divisive. Ok, that’s fine, and we should meet you half-way on it. No guy really has a problem with that. It’s when you get silently resentful because we somehow don’t “just know” as we should, and don’t say anything about it. The idea that we should get “hints” is also laughable – no man has ever got a “hint” in thousands of years., but women still do it and expect us to get them. A hint in guy language is a cricket bat round the face.

But crucially, there are 2 MASSIVE mistakes girl makes that, if corrected, would mean they would get everything they wanted 1000x faster than they could ever imagine without any struggle.

They are:

  1. Phrasing something in a way that doesn’t undermine our sense of competency, and
  2. Giving us a reason/reward for doing something.

A guy’s greatest sensitivity and sore spot is that he is “not good enough”, not competent enough or just generally weak, useless and unable. Press that button and you will get a nasty reaction – the same kind we get when we indicate you are slightly past your prime or need to shift a few pounds at the gym. The walls go up, the back also goes up, and you’re in for a confrontation immediately. You won’t get anything meaningful sorted out and it will done begrudgingly at the slowest rate possibly. Agreeing to what you ask is accepting and condoning that you think we are useless.

Girls do things because they “just know” they have to be done and just assume we silently give out brownie points the way they do. Not so. Being loving, supportive, romantic and all that is automatic and you do it just because you are meant to do it. Men are hunters – they have a mission, a target and a reason for most things they do that are logical and rational. Now i haven’t met many chicks who would describe themselves as either logical or rational. A good example is shopping – a man usually has a plan, a timeframe, a target and executes it. Cavemen bringing home food don’t have time to browse or think about how they feel. We have to have a reason and a end goal (or reward).

All guys love a mission. We have an insane desire that can be inflated by the woman we love that is enough to lead to decades of war, centuries of artistic creativity and heroic escapades that are the stuff of legend. We love it. Deep down all of us want to be the knight in shining armour, the James Bond or the Prince who puts the show in Cinderella’s foot. There is no length we won’t go to to keep our loved ones safe or the look of admiration/approval on our love’s face. If you can learn to harness that, you’ve got it made.

So here’s how it works.

When you want something, bear in mind how you ask for it. Do it in a way that is encouraging and challenging, not in a critical whingeing way with all the details of what you’re unhappy about. All a guy hears is “you’re not goo d enough”. I absolutely guarantee that if you’re complaining, however lightly, he’s hearing he’s not good enough. If you get a funny reaction or resistance, you’re telling him he’s not good enough. He’s not hearing how you feel, he’s hearing your judgement of him.

The other thing is to give him a reason to do what you want him to do. Give him a reward somehow or something beneficial that he is going to get out of it. This isn’t as hard as you might expect, as we don’t need to be patronised into something, we just need to know why we’re doing it. It’s not cynical or manipulative, it’s just appealing to the male brain.

The best way to explain is to give a few examples. So let’s say you want him to do some cleaning around the house because he’s fallen behind on it and being lazy.

The wrong way:

“i’m sick of doing everything, why can’t you just help out and pull your weight like i have to? I’m always picking things up for you and the place is a mess. If you cared about me or our relationship you’d make more of an effort.”

That equals “You are not good enough. You are not competent or useful.” Don’t expect it to get done.

The right way:

“The house needs to clean because … [reason]. Can you help me out to get it done so we can chill and relax together? I’ve got suspenders…”

Or that you’re really stressed and you’ll need to wind down, with suspenders. The quicker you de-stress, the sooner you can get down to some sweet lurve to celebrate.

This works beautifully if you want to be romanced too and he’s got slack at it.

“Romance me. Impress me. Make me fall madly in love with you. Let me fall for you big time. Romance me and you’re getting suspenders.”

See the difference? He has a reason to romance you (you’ll fall more in love with him) and a reward (you’ll fall more in love with him, and he gets suspenders). He has a reason, and he’s needed. He’s wanted. He’s competent and good enough to do it. You empower him and challenge him to something. You send him on a mission that he can complete and get that gorgeous look of love and admiration on your face as a reward for it. Tell him to go out and build a world for you. Tell him you want to see him conquer and create an empire. There is no greater motivation or inspiration for a man. You must always, always be giving out the message that he is good enough and can do it.

Tell him to impress you, but not in a way that says he’s not impressive as he is – you want the extra bit.

Or of course, you could just put him down constantly, expect him to be like a girl and sit there silently seething.

If you want him to just listen to you (rather than interrupting you to tell you what to do), tell him you need him to just sit there and let you vent at him and you just want him to sit there and say nothing. Then give him a hug afterwards, and say thanks for letting you vent. Ever thought of that, instead of getting frustrated he should” just know”? If you want to talk, ask him when is a good time and agree when you’re going to sit down for it together.

None of it is particularly hard now, is it? A bit like if we said “go on honey, lose those annoying few pounds!” enthusiastically – you’re not going to feel too inspired to do it because you feel like he thinks you’re fat and ugly. Whereas if he just worshipped your naked body and told you how sexy he found you when you’d worked up a sweat and loved your confidence and racing libido from it, it would be a lot more motivating. It’s not even about sensitivity; it’s about understanding someone’s motivations – a little realpolitick, if you will.

I wish i had the will to write more, but i have to pen my speech for tomorrow and have no idea what the fuck i am going to talk about. Until then, ciao.

And look at the stars
Don’t they remind you just how feeble we are
Well it used to, I guess
Cause ever since I tried trying not to find
Every little meaning in my life
It’s been fine, I’ve been cool
With my new golden rule
Numb is the new deep
Done with the old me
I’m over the analyzing tonight
Stop trying to figure it out
It will only bring you down
You know, I used to be the back porch poet with my book of rhymes
Always open knowing all the time I’m probably
Never gonna find the perfect rhyme
For ‘heavier things’

New Deep” by John Mayer

30
Apr

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29
Apr

resolving your right to be wrong

Well i have to apologise for my shockingly lacking amount of updates. I tend to write more when i’m unhappy, but recently it’s been something of a diametric opposite. I’m curled up into me and not entirely sure what to write. I said to Debs, Jose and a few others i’d do one about how to get your boyfriend to romance you and how girls make some unbelievably simple mistakes, but the truth is just don’t feel too qualified.

Let me say now that i have no idea what i’m going to write, and no idea where this blog is going to go at all.

They say when you are faced with the most meaningful experiences and relationships in your life, you also face the greatest challenges. So here i am, on the edge of the precipice, asking myself what i want. I have everything laid out to me on an uphill rocky climb, and the rest of the world on a platter for no real effort at all. There is the slow, awkward slope, and a barrage of temptation encircling me. This week is going to be a total onslaught to see if i can keep on course, and i had warning of it. The knives are really out for me this time. I’m getting the whole idea of Christ in the desert – starved, weak and hungry, and then being served a 3 course meal.

Of course, this will mean nothing to you. You’ll never know or have any idea. All of this is just inside me.

It’s only Monday and the assault has started. By Saturday i will be staggering – mark my words. If anyone had any idea of the sheer weight of circumstance bearing down on my shoulders, they’d be shocked. No, i don’t want your sympathy or your empathy. It’s not “poor me” either. I’m strong enough with plenty to spare. I must be being trained for a third world war or something, as it’s just not natural for someone to deal with this level of responsibility. I’m just acutely aware of how many things hang on my words and my thoughts. I’m suddenly realising how many things hang in the balance, and how my behaviour affects how things turn out.

I’m in a series of very, very strange situations, all of which i have never been in before. I have no idea what to do. The only thing i can do is trust my instinct, but that in itself is poisoned by fear and insecurity. It’s a cold place where i am, and the only source of heat is from inside me.

Every time i write here i risk upsetting someone, making them feel something or sending them in another direction. According to Analytics, 47 individual people check this site at 7.30am before breakfast every day for fuck’s sake. Everyone needs me to be someone, to do something, or to be a certain way. I’m not averse to that at all as i live in a world of different people with different needs. But i am at a point where i’m worried about breathing the wrong way. I’ve always believed that you can have everything you want if you help enough people get what they want. I’m not perfect, but i want to leave this life knowing i’ve done every tiny thing i could to help others get to where they wanted to be.

There are people who are scared of me. Not a person, but people. Plural. I hate that idea, believe it or not. Yes, i am a vicious bastard when i want to be, but it’s normally because i’m scared out of my mind or just reacting really badly to being hurt somehow. But what can you do about fear? You can only get into that person’s shoes, absolutely accept and absorb the shame and guilt you feel, and resolve not to do it again because you were wrong and wronged someone else. Beyond that, what is there? Every time you get angry, they run for cover, even if that anger is legitimate. It doesn’t matter how hard you try, what effort you make or how bad you feel, their fear overwhelms them more than who you are inside. Am i my anger, or am i more that? What percent of me is it? Do i have a reason for it that might be to do with something you did and need to say sorry for rather than just shrugging your shoulders?

So many things are dependent on me right now. One foot wrong and i am totally fucked. What you don’t see is me ploughing it all over in my mind for hours each day trying to get it right and working through where i got it wrong.

I’ve learnt a lot about myself in the last few weeks. I’ve learned that i’ve never known what being supportive actually is, and how to do it; I’ve learnt that when i lash out my anger is very frightening; I’ve learnt that the people closest to me have no problem lying to me, even though i secretly know they are lying; I’ve learnt that the people who are closest to me aren’t close to me at all and can’t treat me like a total stranger in a heartbeat; i’ve learnt people push you away after they’ve opened up to you; i’ve learnt i know pretty much nothing when it comes to the heart; i’ve learnt that i need to extend myself, take risks and show people i love them in a leap of faith rather than just talk about it; i’ve learnt that i don’t realise what i have until i lose it; i’ve learnt many people have 2 faces and say something different to what they feel. The list goes on. I’m grateful for it.

One of the most important things i’ve learnt is just how important it is for me to be with someone who shows and expresses their feelings, as i’ve really taken it for granted before and gone the wrong way about getting it. Saying that though, i know all too well that it’s impossible to show how you feel if you’re scared. I stopped to reflect on my own jealousy and insecurities and realised that it is never an issue if i feel really close to someone – it’s only when a relationship becomes distant do i really start to feel terrified. And usually with good reason, as i’ve come to understand that the things people are worried about you doing secretly are the things they are actually doing themselves secretly. I need to have that intimacy and that closeness. I need to feel like i’m with someone who loves me and wants me, and to feel a sense of equality where you give and take in the same proportion. Let me feel loved and there is no argument, no insecurity or problems. Go out of your way to make me feel unloved or just let me fade, and it all kicks off.

Love’s like a heater, and people just go where it’s warmest.

It’s also important for me to be with someone who has fire, passion and a real knock-out blow; a strength of character that is enough to rise above the sins i commit and love me just for who i am with all my faults so i end up a better person driven on by an even greater woman behind me. It’s the difference between sitting there and doing nothing, and going “we ARE going to do something about this”, or a sense of vision and courage that reveals the sheer beauty within so you can bathe and marvel in it. Someone who will kick ass when it’s needed, but also be as vulnerable as a flower in the quieter moments.

For all the girls i’ve known who claim they “know” me, not one has come close. They certainly think they do, of course. Yes ok, as i never let them close, but none have cared enough to punch through, despite the many months they’ve spent being the “perfect” girlfriend they guessed i wanted. For every evening with that “perfect” persona, i’ve wanted 2 with the real one of them underneath. But what can you say to help ease that situation in without sounding more arrogant than i already do? I know you want to be miss perfect for me but would you please just be you?

But also to my detriment, i’ve realised most of my relationships failed in the past due to me not being patient, loving or understanding. I isolated and attacked that person. Now i know what the problem is and what to do, i can finally avoid that and get it right. A lot possibly learned too late.

And i just know every girl i’ve ever been involved with is now going to be reading that and having a conversation in her head as to whether it was written about her, how offended she is, and how she’s now going to punish me for it. This is my point.

That’s what happens when things get tough and fall apart – you just end up in a silly cycle of rejecting each other when you’re trying to make it better, or a game of pride where each of you claims you are more hurt than the other. It’s retarded – there is no winner, both of you are just as hurt, and yet neither of you are strong enough to be the first to move to be seen to “give in” (which is stupid in itself). You both lose. You both just carry on the same bullshit pattern. Somewhere it has to stop. My mum taught me the value of being able to apologise when it was safe to, as nothing was worth the sheer loss that results from pride. Some people will lose everything they have just because they are set on appearing a certain way or preserving something superficial that no-one will ever know about or remember.

Someone has to say sorry first. I’m happy to do that if it needs to be done. I will swallow my pride. Believe me, i will. I have a string of eyewitnesses for it.

Life is just too short. I gave up the idea a while ago now. Hey, if i’m wrong, i’m wrong. What’s the use in being proud? Where does it get me? It’s not going to protect me, it’s going to lose me everything. If the truth is that i was wrong, nasty, or misinterpreted, then that is the truth and that is the way it was. You accept you’re wrong and move on. You accept you’re both wrong and you just put it behind you. What’s the point in grieving over a broken leg when the cast is off and it’s no longer broken? How does a grudge protect you from anything? Isn’t the person and the relationship more important than your ego?

It’s amazing the amount of people who’ve never learnt to deal with conflict properly if you actually ask around, and more disturbingly, that they believe they should go through life without it or something’s wrong. Again, i learnt about resolving it through my mum. My dad just panics, gets defensive, seethes, bears a grudge and nothing is ever sorted out, ever. To him, everything is final, dramatic and last eternally. He will never let his guard down in case you think he’s “weak”. To my mum, a fight is just a fight. It’s normal. You calm down, say sorry and make up. No scrap or difference is too big that it’s bigger than your friendship or relationship. That’s the way i am. The relationship is more important than the inevitable bullshit. I forgive you for your insanity, and you forgive me for mine.

Ladies, may i say now that us guys do have to deal with conflict a lot more than you. Yes, we do. You throw it at us every single day. Why? A. PMT/moodiness. B. You don’t resolve it, only pacify it or silently “get on with it”. C. You test us to see some fire and strength. D. Do i need to carry on? Who fights the wars once you’ve started them? Are boys as catty as girls, or do we just have a fight and settle it?

You get angry and you say things you don’t mean. It’s normal. You scream, shout, whinge, throw things, stamp your foot and screech in frustration at the other person. It’s part of life. It’s part of being human. You fuck up. You sulk. It’s the freedom you have as a right to let it out and express your frustration. Yes, you probably end up hurting the other person, but that’s why you acknowledge the hurt, say sorry, and offer to make it up to them. Whatever happens, when you start to argue, you’ve both already lost. Everything else is just paperwork.

As Trisha Goddard puts it, if you don’t argue, you ain’t normal. Something’s wrong if conflict is not there – it means someone is bottling up and resenting, or those 2 people are possibly clinically brain dead. Conflict is a crucial part of everyday life, and whoever taught you otherwise was just plain wrong.

People have differences. They have feelings that conflict with other people’s. It happens. You fight. Horrid things get said in the heat of the moment. You both get hurt. We all have baggage from our past, and none of us have a clue how to handle it or whether we have got it right. But that’s what bonds us together – that none of us know more than each other, no-one has the one right way to do things or actually get it right most of the time.

The crucial factor is the drama involved.

For me, a relationship is a journey together where you work it out as you go along. It’s a constant cycle of growing, sharing, learning, conflicting, forgiving and so much more. What defines it is how you relate to one another – how well you communicate, how willing you are to empathise, extend yourself and change, and building a vision of something together that is greater than either of you. Ultimately it’s a vehicle for healing – it’s only in a relationship where you get the love and support you need to heal from baggage, and it’s the only time the baggage rears its ugly head to be dealt with.

As they say, the quality of your life is the quality of your communication. Communication is the pulse of a relationship. If there’s no pulse, it dies. It doesn’t matter how much you love each other. If you don’t talk, you’re destined for a lot of problems. And yes, even with a lot of talking, you argue. The idea is to minimise the amount of arguments, not eradicate them or live without them. Ideally if your communication is fluid you shouldn’t have arguments.

Arguments happen because you *don’t* communicate. It’s that simple. Communicate and they don’t happen. Full stop.

If there’s any argument, it means communication has failed somewhere by someone. It’s not talking, explaining, make a point or expressing your feelings that causes arguments, it’s NOT doing it.
Did everyone get that? Every single girl reading this? When you avoid talking, it *causes* an argument. Cold shouldering makes the thing you are afraid of actually happen – you’re causing it. You’re not avoiding one by staying silent, you’re *starting* one. IF just 25% of women i know understood that, they would have a hell of lot less scars from their heartbreaks, and they’d be romanced day in, day out.

God i really can’t over-emphasise that point.

Don’t want your boyfriend to get jealous? Communicate with him and reassure him. Want him to do the housework? Ask him to. Angry? Explain why. Need to talk? Ask him when a good time to sit down would be. Need him to listen and not sort out the problem? Tell him you just wantto talk at him and to stay quiet. Insecure and needing attention? Ask for it directly.

I can hear the cat-calling and every girl nodding away and saying to herself how right that sounds. Yes you knew that already, did you? But if you really agree with that, how come you don’t do it in real life when you’re in the situation? You live what you believe inside. Where did this idea of “if you love each other, you don’t argue” come from? Where did the idea “if you argue, the relationship is fatally wounded” come from? Where did this idea that “everything should be just automatic” come from? There is only one thing that fatally wounds a relationship and that is not resolving a (possibly very damaging) conflict maturely and lovingly.

My own pet theory is that women are scared of conflict because it means fear, hurt, intimidation and god knows what else. People aren’t stupid – they know when you’re pacifying them and telling them what they want to hear. No-one will ever thank you for it. They know when you are procrastinating and avoiding. It just shows you don’t care, and makes it worse. It you cared, you’d make the effort to deal with it and face the awkwardness. Not resolving something doesn’t make it go away; it just carries on and gets worse. You think holding onto your pain and hurt somehow “protects” you, but all it does is cripple and retard you. How on earth does it get you anywhere by working as hard as you can to make sure the other person knows you don’t care about them or the relationship?

Resolution for me is a deliberate act of equality, maturity and humility. You are both wrong. You are both hurt and angry. You both concede the moral high ground. You both calm down. You both let go and forgive at the same time. You take time to share your feelings and agree to make up and move on, and make sure it doesn’t happen again. You both value your relationship and act to deal with it together, and grow because of it. You start by valuing the relationship you have, and you work together to deal with problems because that relationship is valuable.

If the other person isn’t willing to meet you halfway and put down the weaponry, then they’re not interested in equality or humility and are only interested in power and control. In that case, you see just who they are and find out whether you should be in that friendship or relationship in the first place.

I know it’s easy to write all this here and in a lot of ways i fail my own principles when my heart takes control and wreaks havoc. But isn’t the point that all of this is a journey and a ride, and we don’t always know where point B is? Is there a meter that can measure who is more hurt? Can we predict tomorrow or redo yesterday? We are always blind, and sometimes we deliberately allow ourselves to be blinded by pain we could just discard and arguments that were never actually pre-destined but caused by our own hand.

All i know is that there are more and more things i don’t know as the days pass by, but i’m open to being put right, and closed to fear. My pride is pointless if it loses me what is precious, and i want to live, not drift, even if it brings me a strangely curved path of emotions i don’t like too much occasionally. The alternative for me is the coma, which is not living at all. It all comes down to how important hurt is to you, and when it has gone past its shelf life.

And i feel for you
Cause your eyes they whore
And think i hurt cause of something more
And see ya falling all apart
Cause your eyes they… they decide your heart

“Devil With The King’s Card”

Q: What’s invisible and smells of bananas?
A: Monkey breath

Yes young lady, you know who you are! -100 points for how bad that joke is!

27
Apr

whatever happens, do it anyway

I have Kayleigh to thank for this, and it’s so sweet and honourable that it’s even made me go so far as to post it here.

27
Apr

azcameron.co.uk goes mobile friendly

Ok, yes, i hate mobile apps, and the so-called “mobile web”, but in the interests of plurality and maintaining some peublic semblance of conformity i installed the Wordpress Mobile plugin, which should mean the site is now viewable on a phone. Quite why you’d want to read the hundreds of pages i write on a mobile is beyond me, but as they say, it takes all types. Maybe you’re on a delayed train or simply have nothing better to do.

In case you were wondering, the Windows software in the picture above is YoSpace’s Smartphone Emulator. You can test your own site’s mobile-friendliness at Ready.mobi site.

The results for this site are here:

http://ready.mobi/results.jsp?uri=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.azcameron.co.uk&locale=en_EN

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25
Apr

lies, lies and more catholic lies

It’s going to be difficult tonight to contain my fucking rage, and it’s about Roman fucking Catholicism. I am so sick and tired of their blasphemous dogma and indoctrination of vulnerable children with frightening rehetoric. As was once said, Catholics really, truly put the fear of God into you. They teach children that God is terrifying, angry and punishes those who disobey Him. Those children grow up with immense shame, guilt and fear of their own Father who no reason other than the Catholic Church’s need to control its subscribers.

Now i’m a Christian, but there are certain groups of supposedly “Christian” people who blatantly ignore the simplest scripture and misuse it for ther own purposes. This is not misinterpretation, it is outright blasphemy. Some even go so far as to call Catholicism witchcraft. I’m seriously coming to that opinion. Even time i see that evil wrinkly little ex-nazi pope walking around blessing things i want to fucking puke. If Christ were alive today, he’d be tearing through Vatican City ripping it to pieces as He did in the temple of Jerusalem. These lies are so poisonous that the only way they can be ingrained is to teach them to children. There are few words that can describe my disgust at the Catholic Church.

Why i am i so angry? Because it’s bringing my Father’s name into disrepute. Because it’s a bunch of unbiblical lies and utter rubbish with absolutely no foundation. Because when you are indoctrinated with it, it’s incredibly hard to get to know your Creator. Those lies block the way to the Father.

First off, the “fear” of God does not mean fear in the way we know. It means to have a *respect* for God’s power. A respect for His strength, grace and all-dominating being. It does NOT mean to be scared of Him. You don’t even need to go to Church. You respect the wind and the rain’s ability to cause immense damage, but you do not fear them. The fear of God is the belief and conviction that He is the most powerful force in the universe and is the strongest, deadliest, and most absolute authority. Knowing that information is all that needs to be done to fear and respect God.

The God that Roman Catholics teach is NOT the God of the Bible. Read that again.

If you were brought up Catholic, you were lied to. What you were taught was false, and in direct contravention with Christ’s own words. The laws, rules, ideas and concepts the Catholic Church embedded in your brain are not those of God. I rarely say this, but if you are Catholic and reading this, leave this cult right now. Not tomorrow, right now. Renounce it completely and utterly for the bullshit that it is. Don’t excuse it, tolerate it or pontificate on it. It is a bunch of lies, pure and simple. It’s time for you to re-learn who God is. And i can guarantee you that the punishment for those who instigated this stuff will so much worse than for anyoen else, as the Bible clearly states it.

If you have the gall to call yourself Christian and subsribe to this false doctrine, you seriously need to look again at your conscience. To learn about God, you study scripture, and you pray. You are NOT to follow man-made rules and regulations, as Christ alone is the law. Sscripture is very, very clear about it, as it is the simpel story of a carpenter with a band of peasants, written for other peasants.

So we’re going to walk through those lies, and for each one, look at what Christ Himself said about it.

Broadly speaking, Roman Catholicism suffers with 2 corrupt, weak and poisoned tenets:

a) The idea that Christ’s death was “not enough”, and
b) That tradition is equally, if not more valid than scripture itself.

Christ Himself wasn’t a big fan of tradition, and generally speaking if you are Christian, you follow His example.

“Jesus replied, “And why do you break the command of God for the sake of your tradition?” (Matthew 15)

So the Pharisees and teachers of the law asked Jesus, “Why don’t your disciples live according to the tradition of the elders instead of eating their food with ‘unclean’ hands?” He replied, “Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you hypocrites; as it is written:” ‘These people honor me with their lips,but their hearts are far from me. They worship me in vain; Their teachings are but rules taught by men.’ You have let go of the commands of God and are holding on to the traditions of men.”  (Mark 7)

There you have it. Scripture and living right are more important than tradition, and scripture alone carries authority.

Purgatory, like many other Catholic dogmas, is based on a misunderstanding of the nature of Christ’s sacrifice. Catholics view the Mass / Eucharist as a re-presentation of Christ’s sacrifice because they fail to understand that Jesus’ once for all sacrifice was absolutely and perfectly sufficient (Hebrews 7:27). Catholics view meritorious works as contributing to salvation due to a failure to recognize that Jesus’ sacrificial payment has no need of additional “contribution” Jesus is the atoning sacrifice for sin (1 John 2:2). To limit Christ’s’ sacrifice to atoning for original sin, or sins committed before salvation, is an attack on the Person and Work of Christ. If we must in any sense pay for, atone for, or suffer because of our sins – that indicates Jesus’ death was not a perfect, complete, and sufficient sacrifice.

Think about it - if it was a work of God, wouldn’t it go the whole way and be a complete act, or a “nearly there”?

Mary is NOT to be worshipped or venerated
She was not immaculately conceived, had plenty of other children, lived to a good age and died normally, as a human being. She did not ascend to Heaven. We are to deal directly with Christ with no intercessors, and worship of another human being is absolutely forbidden. It has got fuck-all to do with suppression of female characters in biblical tradition. No veneration, no adoration, no devotion, no worship - nothing.

“I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (John 14:6).

“As Jesus was saying these things, a woman in the crowd called out, “Blessed is the mother who gave you birth and nursed you.” He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.” (Luke 11:27)

“Is not this the carpenter’s son? Is not His mother called Mary, and His brothers, James and Joseph and Simon and Judas? “And His sisters, are they not all with us? (Matthew 13)

While He was still speaking to the multitudes, behold, His mother and brothers were standing outside, seeking to speak to Him. And someone said to Him, “Behold, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside seeking to speak to You.” (Matthew 12)

“After this He went down to Capernaum, He and His mother, and His brothers, and His disciples; and there they stayed a few days.” (John 2)

“For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus” -1st Timothy 2:5

Angels, the dead and saints are NOT to be venerated
Angels are created beings that worhsip God, and are not to be held above their designed purpose. Contact with the dead or prayer for them is necromancy and apocryphal, which is specifically forbidden. What God has created is not be raised above it’s natural place or be put before Him or Christ.

I, John, am the one who heard and saw these things. And when I had heard and seen them, I fell down to worship at the feet of the angel who had been showing them to me. But he said to me, “Do not do it! I am a fellow servant with you and with your brothers the prophets and of all who keep the words of this book. Worship God!” (Revelation 22:8)

The church is NOT to store up riches
As Bono so eloquently and ironically put it, “my God doesn’t need cash.” Money is a man-made investion, the love of it is the root of all evil, and the Church as a body of people is absolutely not to collect it but to distribute it, give it up and gain all its needs from God. Not hoard it for Nazis, cover churches in beautiful ornaments, invest in strange biotech companies etc.

As Jesus started on his way, a rich young man ran up to him and fell on his knees before him. “Good teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?” Jesus looked at him and loved him. “One thing you lack,” he said. “Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”

“No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.”

Rituals/services/processes are NOT to be done in Latin
Christ was a carpenter, and his disciples were peasants.  The Bible is full of very simple words said to very simple people, as it is open to all. Latin was an educated language only learnt by rich, educated elite members of society. God communicates in simple words and included the fringes of societies and outcasts, as should we.

“Rather, we have renounced secret and shameful ways; we do not use deception, nor do we distort the word of God. On the contrary, by setting forth the truth plainly we commend ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God.” (2 Corinthians 4)

Purgatory does NOT exist
Purgatory is “a place or condition of temporal punishment for those who, departing this life in God’s grace, are, not entirely free from venial faults, or have not fully paid the satisfaction due to their transgressions.” It is not mentioned in any way in the Bible, at all. It is invented. To say that we must atone for our sins by cleansing in Purgatory is to deny the sufficiency of the atoning sacrifice of Christ. It completely contradicts scripture. and neglects the scientific reality of God being to exist outside time, or in multiple lines of time.

“I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life. (John 5:24)

“And besides all this, between us and you there is a great chasm fixed, so that those who wish to come over from here to you will not be able, and that none may cross over from there to us.’ (Luke 16:26)

Images or symbols are NOT to be used in worship
An “idol” is a symbol of image which is given divine workship. Scripture clearly states that only God is worthy of worship, and must be connected with in spirit rather than statues, pictures, engravings and whatever else. There is no need for any “middleman” or intercessor object.

“You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them”. (Exodus 20)

“Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images” (Romans 1)

Rosaries and mantras are NOT be used
Rpsary prayer apparently offers “special protection” and “graces” not afforded to the ordinary person. There is no name to be exalted, apart from that of Christ. The practice of chanting and object intercession is pagan in nature, and has no place in Christianity - it is as close to witchcraft as it gets. There is no mediating circumstance here, it is false, dangerous, contrary to Christ’s teaching and outright blasphemous.

“But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.” (Matthew 6:7)

God does NOT punish or condemn
ROman Catholicism is based on the idea of scaring the fuck out of people by telling them God is damning, punishing and condemning. In reality, it’s the Catholic Church that is all these things, as the God of the Bible is quite different. He will judge and punish in the future, but NOT now. The purpose of creation is to be a “choosing ground” for the next world and not just somewhere for us to be dumped and beaten up. Christ’s death was payment for all sins, past, present and future. If He punished, there would be no Christ or forgiveness (duh?). Everything in scripture is orientated around divine forgiveness and our reconciliation with God, not saying sorry and pleasing with Him. It’s about making up, not being told off.

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw her and was filled with compassion for her; he ran to his daughter, threw his arms around her and kissed her. “The daughter said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your daughter. But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on her. Put a ring on her finger and sandals on her feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. For this daughter of mine was dead and is alive again; She was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate.  (Luke 15)

Church leaders are NOT to be called “father” or be infallible
This one is very easy, and very simple as there is a direct command to the Church that no-one was ever to take the moniker or title of “Father”. The Pope is the infallible “Holy Father” and priests are “fathers”. It doesn’t get more blasphemous, and the rule is unequivocal.

“Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. Do not be called leaders; for One is your Leader, that is, Christ. ” (Matthew 23:8)

“… for they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them: and that Rock was Christ.” 1 Corinthians 10:4

There is NOT one true Church
A “church” is a “body” of people, not a building or an organisation. Christ is the universal head of the Church, without exception, and has no “chosen representative” on earth. All that qualifies someone to be a member of the Church is to to be servile to and acknowledge Christ. Peter was NOT the “rock” or first Pope (he was married).

“… for they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them: and that Rock was Christ.” 1 Corinthians 10:4

“And are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief corner stone;” (Ephesians 2:20)

Dressed-up priests are NOT middlemen
All Christians are priests (the “universal priesthood”), and officials of the Church are not to wear special garments (Matthew 23) or just do things so people can see. Scripture specifically commands that you go direct to the big guy and no-one else is to be used as an intercessor. Priests do NOT have authority to forgive sin, only God does. All we need to do is ask directly, as Christ taught. Christ didn’t confess or have a priest.

“For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus” -1st Timothy 2:5

“If you ask anything of Me in My Name, I will do it.” (John 14)

Penance and indulgences are NOT necessary
This is probably the most offensive, degrading and dehumanising principle taught by Roman Catholicism, and it keeps people trapped in perpetual guilt and servitude for most of their lives. It teaches guilt, fear and endless attempts at acceptance. It is at complete odds with the Bible and the character of God. It fundamentally states that Christ’s death was “not enough”. Penance and insulgences are about pleasing the Church. They are a construct of the Catholic Church, and nothing to do with God at all.

You cannot “earn” your way to Heaven, or “please” God with good works. You cannot buy your way in, and no amount of guilt gets you forgiveness. All have sinned, all are guilty. Christ did it all. To believe otherwise is contrary to scripture, the nature of God, the nature of Christ and everything that Christianity is. Scripture says salvation is a very simple matter of accepting Christ. That’s it. Nothing else.

“And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more. Now where re-mission of these is, there is no more offering for sin.” (Hebrews 10:17-18)

“Knowing that a man is not justified by the works of the law, but by the faith of Jesus Christ… for by the works of the law shall no flesh be justified.” (Galatians 2:16)

“Therefore we conclude that a man is justified by faith without the deeds of the law.”
(Romans 3:28)

“Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us…” (Titus 3:5)

Excommunication is NOT up to Church authority
There is no support in the Bible for some “preacher” or “church” having the right to cast out people, so it is not at all biblical. It was all saints and believers, both as individuals and also all together as local fellowships, who were to mark, cast out and shun and avoid offenders. And we’re talking serious, chronic offenders who have been warned several times - not dissent and/or disgreement, people who are actively harming the community. Even after this, there is no “official” procedure and all are welcome because all qualify for forgiveness.

“But this know, that later, there will be savage times, for men shall be lovers of the ego, lovers of money, empty pretenders, showing themselves as if above others, abusive, not persuaded by the Fathers, thankless, profane, unsociable, covenant breakers, accusers, men of unsubdued lusts, savage, having no love for what is good, traitors, reckless, puffed up, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God; men who pretend respect towards God but who abnegate [denying] his power. Turn away from such men.” (2 Timothy 3)

There are NOT different classes and types of sins
There are no “types” of sins in the Bible - all sin is sin, is sin. All have sinned, and we are all sinners. Scripture makes no distinction between venial and mortal sins, neither does God, and there are no “7 deadly sins” mentioned anywhere. These again are absurd constructs of the Church. All scripture says is that any sin is mortal.  The Bible simply states that the wages of sin is death. The only way out is through Christ, and there will be no distinction.

“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23)

“The wages of sin is death…” (Romans 6:23)

Communion is NOT meant as real blood and flesh
Other than being quite sick, the process of “transubstantiation” is a Gnostic idea where bread and wine actually magically become flesh and blood. Nowhere is this mentioned in the Bible, as the Last Supper was a commerative and symbolic act, not a literal one. Christ clearly refers to it as wine and bread - if it turned to something else, then surely He would have talked about it, as He did with everything else.

I tell you, I will not drink of this fruit of the vine from now on until that day when I drink it anew with you in my Father’s kingdom.” (Matthew 26:27)

“For as often as ye eat this bread, and drink this cup, ye do shew the Lord’s death till he come. ” (1 Cor 26)

Priests are NOT have to remain celibate
And nowhere does it say that celibacy is “optional”. Scripture even makes a point of saying that its better for a priest to marry so sexual urges don’t build up and cause trouble (e.g. sex abuse scandals by RC priests). The first “Pope”, supposedly Peter, was married. Marriage is seen as a wonderful, good thing, and the wives of priests are highly valued as part of the team.

“If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task. Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. “(! Timothy 3)

“I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.” (1 Cor 7)

Sex is NOT just for procreation
For every one but a few species, sexual reproduction in animals is a sterile genetic procedure. In humans, it is a pleasurable experience. In both, the process of natural selection requires it to drive us to propagate our genes, and if God created natural selection and made it pleasurable, AND said so in scripture, it’s safe to assume He’s a fan of the idea. Sex is always mentioned in the context of marriage because of the potential to get hurt, but it is clearly alluded to in the new Testament as a pleasurable activity, without shame. Contraceotion is obviously not mentioned as it wasn’t invented, but again it’s safe to assume that if doing it for pleasure is OK and it prevents unplanned pregnancies, STDs and abortions, it’s not a problem at all.

“The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:25)

“God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and  the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the  ground.” (Genesis 1:28)

The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.

“…because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife” and “it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7)

There are NOT chosen saints
The Pope “canonizes” and “beautifies” dead people. Unfortunately, a “saint” in the early Church applied to ALL Christians, rather than the chosen few, and meant a “holy” person.

“To the church of God which is at Corinth, to those who have been sanctified in Christ Jesus, saints by calling, with all who in every place call on the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, their Lord and ours” (1 Corinthians 1:2)

“Paul and Timothy, bond-servants of Christ Jesus, To all the saints in Christ Jesus who are in Philippi, including the overseers and deacons” (Philippians 1:1)

The Apocrypha is NOT part of the Bible
It was added in the 16th century, is unreliable, asserts values and practices that are wholly contrary to the rest of scripture, were rejected/omitted by everyone else and was even rejected from the first Latin Bulgate angrily by it’s translator (Jerome). The same arguments go for the Gnostic Gospels - if in doubt, exclude (but NOT cover up), and only admit what is reliable and consistent.

“I warn everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: If anyone adds anything to them, God will add to him the plagues described in this book. And if anyone takes words away from this book of prophecy, God will take away from him his share in the tree of life and in the holy city, which are described in this book.” (Revelation 2218)

Suicide does NOT land you in Hell
Nowhere in the Bible does it state that committing suicide sends you automatically downstairs, and the book itself is relatively silent on the issue even though several of the most prominent characters killed themselves. Suicide is seen as sinful because of the betrayal it is to those around you, rather than the act itself. Scripture takes a positive tone about suffering and emphasises the renewing of the spirit and freedom from depression. It focuses on compassion for those who are in despair, rather than damning them as Catholicism does. All sins are forgiven as long as the connection with Christ is there.

“And so I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven men, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven. Even anyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven” (Matthew 12:31)

“Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30

If the Bible is a Catholic book:

  1. Why does it condemn clerical dress? (Matt. 23:5-6).
  2. Why does it teach against the adoration of Mary? (Luke 11:27-28).
  3. Why does it show that all Christians are priests? (1 Pet. 2:5,9).
  4. Why does it condemn the observance of special days? (Gal. 4:9-11).
  5. Why does it teach that all Christians are saints? (1 Cor. 1:2).
  6. Why does it condemn the making and adoration of images? (Ex. 20:4-5).
  7. Why does it teach that baptism is immersion instead of pouring? (Col. 2:12).
  8. Why does it forbid us to address religious leaders as “father”? (Matt. 23:9).
  9. Why does it teach that Christ is the only foundation and not the apostle Peter? (1 Cor. 3:11).
  10. Why does it teach that there is one mediator instead of many? (1 Tim. 2:5).
  11. Why does it teach that a bishop must be a married man? (1 Tim. 3:2, 4-5).
  12. Why is it opposed to the primacy of Peter? (Luke 22:24-27).
  13. Why does it oppose the idea of purgatory? (Luke 16:26).
  14. Why is it completely silent about infant baptism, instrumental music in worship, indulgences, confession to priests, the rosary, the mass, and many other things in the Catholic Church?

1700 years of non-biblical bullshit

200 AD Immersion of infants who are dying, but considered sinless. (Tertullian V.12)
250 AD North Africa region is first to practice infant baptism and reduced the age of baptism from minors to all newborns. This is opposed by other regions.
257 AD Baptism by sprinkling for adults instead of immersion first used as an exception for those on sick beds, but it caused great dispute.
300 AD Prayers for the dead
320 AD Special dress code of the clergy in worship
325 AD At the general council of Nice, 325, it was proposed indeed, probably by the Western bishop Hosius, to forbid entirely the marriage of priests; but the motion met with strong opposition, and was rejected.
325 AD The date for Easter was set.
379 AD Praying to Mary & Saints. (prayers of Ephraim Syrus)
385 AD In the West, the first prohibition of clerical marriage, which laid claim to universal ecclesiastical authority, proceeded in 385 from the Roman church in the form of a decretal letter of the bishop Siricius to Himerius, bishop of Tarragona in Spain.
389 AD Mariolatry begins with Gregory Nazianzen, who mentions in a eulogy, how Justina had besought the virgin Mary to protect her virginity.
400 AD Impossibility of apostasy or once saved always saved, (Augustine XII.9)
416 AD Infant baptism by immersion commanded of all infants (Council Of Mela, Austin was the principal director)
430 AD Exhalation of Virgin Mary: “Mother of God” first applied by the Council of Ephesus
502 AD Special dress code of the Clergy all the time.
500 AD The “Habit” of Nuns (Black gowns with white tunics)
519 AD Lent
526 AD Extreme Unction
593 AD The Doctrine of Purgatory popularized from the Apocrypha by Gregory the Great
600 AD First use of Latin in worship (Gregory I)
Beginning of the Orthodox/Roman Catholic church as we know it today in its present organization.
607 AD First Pope: Boniface III is the first person to take the title of “universal Bishop” by decree of Emperor Phocas.
608 AD Pope Boniface IV. turns the Pantheon in Rome into a temple of Mary ad martyres: the pagan Olympus into a Christian heaven of gods.
670 AD Instrumental music: first organ by Pope Vitalian
709 AD Kissing of Pope Constantine’s feet
753 AD Baptism by sprinkling for those on sick beds officially accepted.
787 AD Worship of icons and statue approved (2nd council of Nicea)
787 AD Rome (Latin) and Constantinople (Greek) part ways and begin the drift towards complete split, resulting in two denominations emerging in 1054 AD.
965 AD Baptism of bells instituted by Pope John XIII
850 AD Burning of Holy Candles
995 AD Canonization of dead saints, first by Pope John XV
998 AD Good Friday: fish only and the eating-red meat forbidden
1009 AD Holy water
1022 AD Penance
1054 AD Roman Catholic church breaks away from the Orthodox church
1054 AD Roman Catholics officially embrace instrumental music, Orthodox reject instrumental music down to the present time.
1079 AD Celibacy enforced for priests, bishops, presbyters (Pope Gregory VII)
1090 AD Rosary beads: invented by Peter the Hermit
1095 AD Instrumental music
1190 AD Sale of Indulgences or “tickets to sin” (punishment of sin removed)
1215 AD Transubstantiation by Pope Innocent III, Fourth Lateran Council
1215 AD Auricular Confession of sins to priests instituted by Pope Innocent III, (Lateran Council)
1215 AD Mass a Sacrifice of Christ
1217 AD Adoration and Elevation of Host: ie. communion bread (Pope Honrius III)
1230 AD Ringing bells at Mass
1251 AD The Scapular, the brown cloak worn by monks invented by Simon Stock
1268 AD Priestly power of absolution
1311 AD Baptism by sprinkling accepted as the universal standard instead of immersion for all, not just the sick. (Council of Ravenna)
1414 AD Laity no longer offered Lord’s cup at communion (Council of Constance)
1439 AD Purgatory a dogma by the Council of Florence (see 593 AD)
1439 AD Doctrine of Seven Sacraments affirmed
1480 AD The Inquisition (of Spain)
1495 AD Papal control of marriage rights
1534 AD Order of Jesuits founded by Loyola
1545 AD Man-made tradition of church made equal to Bible (Council of Trent)
1545 AD Apocryphal books added to Bible (Council of Trent)
1546 AD Justification by human works of merit
1546 AD Mass universally said in Latin (see 600 AD)
1547 AD Confirmation
1560 AD Personal opinions of Pope Pius IV imposed as the official creed
1864 AD Syllabus Errorum [Syllabus of Errors] proclaimed that “Catholic countries” could not tolerate other religions, (no freedom of religion), conscience, separation of church and State condemned, asserted the Pope’s temporal authority over all civil rulers (Ratified by Pope Pius IX and Vatican Council) condemned
1870 AD Infallibility of Pope (Vatican council)
1908 AD All Catholics should be christened into the church
1930 AD Public Schools condemned by Pope Pius XII (see 1864 AD)
1950 AD Sinners prayer, invented by Billy Sunday and made popular by Billy Graham. (Some Catholics now use this)
1950 AD Assumption of the body of the Virgin Mary into heaven shortly after her death. (Pope Pius XII)
1954 AD Immaculate conception of Mary proclaimed by Pope Pius XII
1995 AD The use of girls in the traditional alter boy duties
1996 AD Catholics can believe in Evolution (Pope John Paul II)

You need to understand something very clearly, so read this slowly and carefully.

God does NOT punish. God does NOT condemn. God does NOT inflict suffering on our lives. If you are suffering, it is NOT God punishing you or through His hands.

Before Christ (i.e. in the Tanakh) God did punish. When this life is over, scripture states He will punish (killing billions). Scripturally, Hell was created as punishment to angelic rebellion, sin, death and those who commit evil. It was not originally created for people. If we die with sin on our back, we carry it with us, and sin isn’t permitted in God’s prescence because He hates it and it is His diamtric opposite. It is “beneath” Him. You have to work it out - either He doesn’t care and doesn’t intervene in your life, or He does and He hates you. He either intervenes and knows you personally, or He doesn’t. You can’t have it both ways.

God has no need to punish anyone, but He does use and allow difficult circumstances to occur to achieve certain things. Scripture states that the purpose of Christ was payment. He was a “bridge” between God and man, part-human, and part-God. His death was a Yom Kippur sacrifice for all humanity - a “get out jail free ” card, if you like. Christ is God’s provision for sin and our way back home. It means we don’t have to be punished, as the debt’s already been paid in full, in advance. As long as we understand and accept that gift, we’re cool. The Father knows all too well we’re going to fuck up and keep fucking up. But all the sin we do has been atoned for, in advance.

The biblical concept of “atonement” is important here, and to understand the idea of Christ you need to understand the Jewish tradition of Yom Kippur. In order to forgive the sins of Israel, each year a goat was covered in blood (representing all the sins of all the people), given all the sins of Israel, and led out into the desert to die. The goat took the sin on its back and was never seen again - it took the place of the people and carried away their sin on their behalf so they didn’t have to walk out into the desert themselves.

There is no need for “penance” and “indulgences” because it’s payment of a debt already settled. You don’t have to “earn” your way in or feel guilty enough to get through the door. Scripture says God already knows all of us our sinful, and has done something about it. We don’t need to feel guilty, we just need to make sure we’re on the winning side. How hard can it be to do that? Well you clearly find it very difficult as you’re reading this and thinking its religious propaganda. It’s a no-brainer. Christ’s meaning was reconciliation, and it was done out of forgiveness. With forgiveness, there is no need for penance as it is absolute and non-compormising. Enough has already been done a long time ago.

22
Apr

a fire for the fire in you

I’ve been waiting a while to write this post. It’s for everyone who’s reaslly getting put through the washer at the moment and who’s sought me out today to allow me to tell them not to give up. This is for Kel, Em, Faz and Jenny.

F4R34NEH says:
how can u inspire others when ur feeling the opposite?

It is the *only* time you can inspire others. Only at the moment we are weakest can others know it to be real and know we are genuine in what we say and think. Everything else is potentially fake and just happy talk. It’s easy to talk and a hell of a lot harder to live out what comes from your head and mouth. Blood, sweat and tears are real. Winners over circumstance have true vitality and are the masters of their destiny we can believe, touch and feel.

I’ve learned that what St Paul the Apostle wrote is true: patience breeds perseverance, which brings character. And out of character comes hope. But character brings the light of hope for others more than just for you. Your character, beauty and strength lights up the world for others so they can see the way. Hope is so fragile but so powerful - light a small candle or a precious stone glimmering in a mountain of sand. It can lift mountains. It can refresh the soul and charge the spirit. Your strength and beauty is a light for others in their darkness.

I write this in my own darkness. It is right now we own, and right now that is ours. It isn’t the moment on a glorious stage where we stand in the adulation of the masses with our cute catchphrases and motivational talk. It is right now, in the darkness, where no-one is looking. Only now do we find out who we are and what we are capable of. We survive when all else is lost, and we do what we never thought we could ever do. All you have to do is be there. As the curtains draw across you and the walls tower menacingly above you, there is hope. It is inside you, and inside everyone else who is just as scared. Death has no power over it, neither does fear. It may be small, but it is invincible.

You are going to do what you have to do. You can do it. I believe in you. You have survived waves and waves of painful chaos that tried to break your back and failed, even though you were smashed down to your limits. But your limits grew stronger and your heart deeper. Every time you were stabbed in the chest, you went futher into that darkness and conquered a small part of it when you never thought you could. You took it and you withstood the onslaught.

I know you’re tired of fighting. I know you’re sad and weary and the road never seems to end. It should all be so much easier and faster than this. But you are so tired that you don’t realise just how fast you’re going, and your eyes aren’t capable of seeing any further than what’s around you. Over that hill is hope. The fight in you to put one foot in front of the other is hope for someone else. When your body is tired your mind will carry you, and when you your mind is tired your body will carry you. When both are tired, the love of those around you will always carry you. Your love carries people when they are too tired.

And it’s all worth it for that moment - the second you feel the water rush over you when what you wanted has arrived and succeeded. All the pain vanishes and melts away when it’s there. There is no pain, no tiredness and no adversity that can destroy hope, even when it is so small. All your mistakes mean nothing. Every time you hurt, longed and were on your knees in despair can no longer hurt you. It is always at the moment you least expect and is beautiful in its simplicity. And it is over that hilltop, and you will find it. It will find you. All you need to do is keep going and you will get there.

The world can and does change. You can change it if that is your will. You may think you are just too small and too insignificant to do anything at all and its all out of your control. But the world has only ever been changed by one person at a time, ever. It is the only way it changes. One person turns something around and the ripples are felt everywhere. There is no person who is alone and ineffectual on this planet. And everyone who has ever given their all to something never regretted putting it all on the line as the act itself is powerful enough. They all felt like giving up, just as you do. The moment they were 30 seconds before the finish line they finally had enough. But it was that 1%, that hope, that pushed them past. Only at the most desperate moments do we realise where we are and how far we’ve come, and why it is so important to push those dragging feet the last yards.

But what does it mean to you? There is no-one like you who has ever been born, and never will again. Only you can change your world, and the world of those around you. It is in this moment where you can do it. This moment will only happen once before it is gone to the next one. Eventually they form a chain that makes history. Your life is a chain of moments that are yours - moments that are unique and will never happen again. Now is your vindication. Now is what you must conquer before you can fight the next. There is no dress rehearal - this is it. You have to live inside it, right now. Feel it, fight it, adsorb it, consume it and breathe it out.

Will you make that decision not to give in? I know you’re scared. Don’t be afraid. Don’t give in to it even if it feels you are about to drown. Stand there and let it break over you. It will attack you again and again, and each time you set the bar for how you handle it the next time. Fear is a slave, not a master, and it’s an arrogant one. You can do it if you fight for it, even with what little strength you have. You may be small. You may be lost. You may be worried. But you can do it. You can fight for it. You have fought before, and you will fight again. You will fight tomorrow, and the day after that, but only one day at a time. You have no idea just how resilient and extraordinary you can be. If you walked into your fear, you would find out.

What you do will live on; it will echo around you in the hearts and minds of those you know. Decades pass but memories live on. When you can’t work out what the hell is going on, it is one of the most important periods in your life. The world can wait. There is always more than this, and will find it. The journey is long but you are equipped - you are loved, you are strong and you have what it takes. Nothing can stop the will of a person who is ready to go past what they know, and more has been created by those who didn’t know they couldn’t do it than by anyone else. Fall and you get up. Trip and you re-balance. Get winded and you recover your breath.

What can harm you? Can what hasn’t happened push you over? Can what isn’t real yet make demands of you? Who has the say as to whether it wins? These things may threaten you, punch you, drain you and worry you so your body trembles, but they have to have your permission. You will stand your ground and face it down. You will ride out and meet it instead of running away. And they will all see the courage and the drive in your face as you bite down and stare.  You are going to focus, clench your fist and pull in your breath ready to be counted and be everything that the battles over your life have made you.

Do it because you think you can’t. Do it so you can tell your children. But most of all, do it to give hope to others - those you haven’t met yet or you can’t see looking on at you. So your heartbeat is so loud it can be heard over the droning white noise of the high street. To confound, surprise and amaze all those who have an idea of you in their head that you’re not enough. Sitck your middle finger up, cut out the cancerous lies you believe and dive in even if you don”t know you’ll make it back. No-one else will because they are too scared, but you’re going to because they need to be set free. Take responsibility for their futures too, and give them hope. Show them someone did it once, and they are not alone.

I feel lost, and my head is in my hands. But i won’t give up. I won’t give in. Even if they steal the last breath from me, it will be carrying the words FUCK YOU I AM NEVER GIVING UP. Right to the last second and past it. Your life is not your own, it is the memories of others and the wisdom for those who come after you.  All we have is this moment, and whether we own it. It is mine. I decide who and what this moment will be. You can take everything i have, but you will never steal the things that are bigger than me - my hope, my vision, my will and my passion.  There is no thief who can run away with it and no bomb big enough to blast through it. Because i decide whether it lives or dies, and i alone.

You can hurt me, but i’ll come back up with a bloodied fist. You can push me, suffocate me, drain me, and try to capture me. But in me a fire burns that is stronger than any weapon you have or any force you know. Something that burns with intensity of a violent hosue blaze that sucks up more oxygen than is available and can’t be stopped. And its a fire that burns for every time i’ve been lost and hopeless; every time i’ve been let down or betrayed; every second i have lost and every moment that passed me by; every fear, every nightmare, every tear and every pulse of my tiny heartbeat.

And when its dark all around and there is no way out, look to me as i’ll burn away for you when you can’t. I will shine a light and hold you up when you can’t life your own body to take another step. I will be there. I will fight for you no matter how long it takes. No matter how long that journey, no matter how dark it gets, and no matter how bad the storm is, for every second i’m alive there will be a fire burning in me to tear through the walls, the obstacles and the darkness you are too scared or tire to face. If no-one else, i will be there. I give you my word i will never give up. I swear to you that i will never, ever lose my footing or my ground. This life is ours, and we can break the rules we set when we need to, as those rules are just markers someone weaker than us set a long time ago.

Feel where you are now. Right now. Is this yours or someone else’s? Stumble around in the dark and you will find me there, with you. If you can’t go on, i can, and i will, with you in my arms. For when you only see one pair of footprints, that is because i carried you.

“The universe is so vast and ageless that the life of one man can only be justified by the measure of his sacrifice.”

RAF Pilot

“It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, “Always do what you are afraid to do.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

21
Apr

turning a corner in the refiner’s fire